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16/01/2011 11:26pm 

Life 

16.1.11 hate life!

I abs hate being like this, nice way to start off the new year but crying, being depressed, grieving what else could go wrong??
I hate being in consent moods where am either angry, sad or bottled up. These moods normally lead to is snapping at people or having arguments or just sitting there crying. What else can I do am a 14 year old girl who basically has lost the way of life. I used to be Sooo hyper, fun to be around or I was always laughing but now have you saw is am a mess!!

The actual thoughts that are running through my head are suicidal. I know it sounds bad but there just thoughts I don't think I would have the guts to go that far. I will have the moments now of thinking how will I die or will people miss is!

There is no meaning of my life atm there is none of is left to go back to the happy place where I originally was. Yess I will have the occasional odd smile or laugh but I put a face on most of the rest of the time.

Everyone is worried about is, I just think why am not important wtf am like any other person there's nowt special about is. So what's the need of is living if everyone else around is, is the same as is!!
I feel like everyone else in the world is against is liek they hate is or that they are annoyed with is like am not wanted. Even the closest people are against is. No one is talking to is or has even tried to make a proper convo. There the people who I need right now and it seems like they dont care or either cba with me as a person. I feel like my mam is even against is she's constantly shouting at is, causing is to feel bad for nothing or it's either that or she makes is feel like abs crap that am worth nothing at all.

I am starting to lie in bed wondering if I can put up with living another day in this way because it feels like a living hell. I'll get to sleep by either crying my self to or by listening to music till yon time.

This is how I felt last night. Kinda wrote it as I would say it. can you help?

bye sam

Sam's answer

Sam 

28/01/2011 5:09pm 

Hi there

Thank you for writing to me - I can tell from your letter, that you are going through a very difficult time at the moment and having to cope with some very strong feelings. Recently, it seems that you have felt lost, as if you can’t find your way out. Even though you can remember times in the past when you were able to laugh, and you were fun to be around, it’s as if something is preventing you from finding your way back to the happy place where you once were.

What does it feel like to think back to those happy times? Can you recall something happening just before everything changed, or did change happen gradually? Sometimes it can be difficult to see where it all began, and it can become confusing trying to work it out on your own.

It’s really good that you have written your letter, which is a sign that you want things to change, and that you are still looking for that way out. I was just wondering if you've ever though about speaking to a counsellor at ChildLine? Sometimes talking to a counsellor over a few sessions can help you to unravel all the confusion, and begin to find new ways of moving forward that help you to feel more like you did when times were fun. You will also find that people around you begin connect with you in a more positive way.

Complete change may not happen overnight, but you have already taken the first step, which is very brave of you. When you feel ready for the next step you can either call ChildLine on freephone 0800 1111, or connect to a counsellor online through the ChildLine website.

Take care

Sam

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