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09/04/2011 11:36am 

Being treated differently 

Hi

I've just lost it. i'm fed up. All my life, i've been the one in my family that's been blamed for everything.

My parents never take me seriously, my teachers at school all ignore me, and when they notice i exist their horrible to me, and i've just lost it!

I can thank of at least 1O different times this has happened just this week from the top of my head, like this morning, my sister kicked me really hard, so i told dad, and he just pushed me out the room and locked the door!

I just don't know what to do about it because i'm the youngest in our family and no-one ever takes me seriously.

Sam's answer

Sam 

18/04/2011 4:50pm 

Hi there

I’m glad that you sent me your message because it sounds as though you’re really struggling at the minute because of the way your family are. Family problems can be some of the hardest to cope with because they are often who we spend the most time with.

It can also be especially difficult when young people feel like their parents treat them differently to how they treat their brothers or sisters. It sounds like that’s how you feel? It can feel really lonely because it seems as though the people who you can rely on are the same people who are letting you down.

The most important thing to do is make sure that you are okay and looking after yourself and your feelings. You’ve told me about these feelings of being fed up and that nobody takes you seriously – it’s important to find a way for you to deal with those feelings in your own way. If you’re struggling to think of ideas of ways to cope you could always create a thread on the message boards to see if anyone else has a good way of dealing with the emotions your going through.

You can of course always talk with a ChildLine counsellor – talking to a counsellor is a good way of letting off steam, talking about what options you might have and allowing us to support you. ChildLine is there for young people, and the counsellors will always take you seriously, even if you feel nobody else does.

I hope that you contact ChildLine again soon to talk, don’t forget you can do it online or by phoning 0800 1111.

Take care

Sam

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