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04/01/2012 22:08 

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I know you probs hear this everyday but I need some serious help. I have huge trust issues with everyone around me and the one person who I really looked up to and love was my best friend Paige. She then left me on my own for a while and I honestly felt like nothing. I also lost my other friends as I pushed everyone away and I didnt even notice what I was doing. I cry all the time even if I have no reason to and I even turnt to drink and self harming too. Im not close to my family either so I had no one to turn to or trust. Now shes back in my life and kissed me telling me she loved me after a party where we both drank so I took no notice of it all and her being in a relationship with a guy and me just coming out of one, I just thought it was the drink. But Ive realised Ive always loved her a little more than I should so I spoke to her to find out why and then she claims it was all true! Now Im really confused about my sexuality as Ive said if I ever fell for a girl then Im cool with it, but now its happened Im scared! And I also still miss my ex boyfriend so Im overly confused!!! Is there any advise or anything you could give me to help me sort my head out a little bit please?!
I was going to talk to a woman who I have meetings with for my depression, trust issues and mood swings but this feels a little even more personal and Im scared to admit it to anyone, even myself :(
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Sam 

05/01/2012 10:26 

Hi there,

Thanks for sending your letter to me and telling me how you are feeling, I can hear what a confusing and upsetting time this is for you. Please know that the confusion you are experiencing with your sexuality is a very normal and natural part of growing up and you have done the right thing getting in touch.

I can hear that the difficult feelings and experiences you have outlined above have built up and left you feeling so upset you have turned to self harm and alcohol to help you cope. It sounds like you are concerned and would like to get some help and support to help you process some of the thoughts and feelings you are experiencing. For more information about self harm and alcohol you may like to check out The Site website. This has lots of helpful information and tips for keeping safe and well. More support on all that you have mentioned can also be found on the ChildLine message boards where children and young people support each other with the issues they face in their daily lives.

It’s great that you have considered talking to the woman that supports you in meetings with depression, trust issues and mood swings. I'd encourage you to go ahead and talk to her about how you are feeling. If this still feels too much, or you'd prefer to be anonymous, then why not talk to a ChildLine counsellor. You could sensitively explore your situation and feelings with them; and get the personal response you feel is helpful. You can phone 0800 1111 or sign up for an account and use online chat.

Take care,

Sam

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