Hi and thanks for your letter.
You told me you lost your dad recently which must be so hard for you to deal with right now. Losing someone close to you can make you feel all sorts of emotions and can also make you feel that no-one else can possibly understand what you are going through – which can be quite a lonely feeling.
Counselling can be very helpful in dealing with all these different feelings and it may feel weird to talk to someone face to face if you’ve never had counseling before. It can also be helpful to talk to another family member, or friend that you trust, about your dad and how you’re feeling now, if you feel ready to.
You said that the people you have told ‘don’t care’ and that you ‘scream and they can’t hear you’. When someone dies it can also put a strain on your relationships with other people because you really want someone to understand how painful it is for you.
Someone who will be able to ‘hear you’ are Cruse - a youth bereavement service - who can give support and information on how to deal with feelings of loss. They have a Helpline: 0808 808 1677 and a website: RD4U
Of course you may want to talk to someone by telephone or online chat rather than face-to-face. ChildLine counsellors are here 24 hours a day if you want to talk to someone about how you feel and you can say as much or as little as you want. You can phone 0800 1111 or log onto the ChildLine website for a 1-2-1 chat.
Take care,
Sam.