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29/12/2010 1:34am 

I live in the past 

i would love to get over the passed but i cant ive grew up with my uncle since i was born because i live in my grandmahouse with my mum as i grew older we did more things like play fight and thing brother and sister would do but now hes 23 and has a family of his own and i miss him because hes like a brother to me also my when i was younger my grandma had her house took of her because my grandad wasnt payin the bills all the thigng the toy the cloths presushe thing had all gone may unclegot verry mad ad there was argments every night i would cry in my room but nobody would here me

then my great grandma died i was upset i new she had died and i wanted to go to her funneral but i ended up backin out my uncle rang and said jo you  have to go say bye to grandma but i didnt i  was scared i feel realy giulty i didnt go 

please help me

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Sam 

13/01/2011 3:00pm 

Hello

Thanks for your letter.

It sounds like you wish you could see your uncle more and it’s clear from what you write that you miss the things you used to do with him. When things change it’s natural to wish that things could have stayed the same, and it can be hard to get used to how they are now. 

Your uncle might not have as much time as he used to but you could tell him how much you miss him and enjoy spending time with him now. You could ask your uncle if you can choose a time to see each other regularly and do something you both enjoy. 

It can be really hard when adults argue and sometimes it seems like they don’t notice how upset you are. ChildLine is always here for you and perhaps you could think of another adult or friend who you can trust and can talk to when things are tough.

When someone dies we can get lots of different feelings at once and it can be hard to know what to do. It’s important to know there is no right or wrong way to feel or act. You don’t have to go to a funeral to say goodbye, we all say goodbye in different ways.

You might find it useful to look round the rest of the ChildLine website. The message boards are a place where other young people can talk about some of the things you’ve told me about. You could also find out more by looking in the Explore section or talking to a counsellor.

Take care

Sam

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