Hi there
Thank you for your message. It sounds like you are feeling upset by the bullying that you are experiencing at the moment. You have said it is making you feel really miserable and you aren’t looking forward to school. You also say that she used to hit you, although she doesn’t do this anymore. Any form of bullying, whether it’s hitting, being verbally abusive or saying nasty things about you, is not okay. Bullying is unacceptable; it’s unfair and shouldn’t be ignored.
You have been really brave in trying to talk to your mum about the bullying, and also in writing to me. It can be hard to know what to do in a bullying situation, but there are things you can do. For example, you could tell an adult you trust in school. You have said that you don’t know which teacher to tell. It might be good to think if there are any other teachers or perhaps a school counsellor you feel you could talk to about this.
It seems like you are anxious about telling a teacher in front of other friends. It might be a good idea to ask to talk to a teacher before or after a class when others aren’t around. This way you may feel more able to get your point across.
Another thing you can do is keep a diary of what is happening that you could then show to the teacher or school counsellor you decide to tell.
Schools do have a responsibility to make sure that any bullying is dealt with in the right way. All schools should have an anti-bullying policy. This is a set of rules which tells schools what they should do if somebody is being bullied.
I would like to encourage you to contact ChildLine to talk to a counsellor about what is happening. You may feel it helps to talk about your feelings and also different things you can do about the bullying. ChildLine’s number is 0800 1111, it’s free to call and doesn’t appear on phone bills. You can also sign up and chat to a counsellor online if you prefer.
You may also find it useful to look at the message boards on bullying on the ChildLine website. The message boards are forums for young people to talk about problems that are affecting them, and to offer each other support.
I hope you found this information useful.
Take care
Sam