Hi there
Thanks for your message. It sounds like you have been concerned about your friend’s change in behaviour since she started to date this older boy. It can be a confusing time for friends to see someone who you might have known for a quite a while start to act differently. It seems like this is also causing you to argue with your friend now that she is still continuing to hang around this older crowd even though she promised not to.
Sometimes when we don’t approve of what our friends are doing it can be hard to see past our own feelings to discover what it is that they may enjoy from these different experiences. Perhaps it would help if you talk to your friend and ask her how she feels about the people she hangs around with so you can understand a bit more.
You’ve mentioned that these boys have also made racist comments to another friend and have made comments to you about not having friends. If these boys are bullying you and a friend then it is important to speak to a teacher about their behaviour. No-one has the right to bully you or your friend and your school should take this seriously.
Perhaps you could think about speaking to a trusted adult about your concerns. Remember you aren’t responsible for how your friend acts so think about getting some more support to talk about how this makes you feel. Perhaps talk to a parent/carer or even check out the ChildLine message boards for some peer support.
ChildLine counsellors are also here for you when you need to talk. You can call free on 0800 1111 or have a 1-2-1 chat online.
Take care
Sam