Hi there
Thanks for being brave enough to get in touch and talk about how you are feeling and asking for help. It sounds like you are having a really difficult time at the moment both at school and at home.
It sounds really frustrating to feel that your brother is treated differently to you by your mum, and that he gets away with things when you are punished. I imagine it might be hurtful to think things aren’t fair in the way you are treated at home. I wonder if your mum realises this is how you feel, and whether you have ever tried to talk to her about this? Maybe writing down how you feel and showing her might help you get her to see how you are feeling. Or perhaps you could try and agree some rules to help you feel you are being treated the same as your brother.
I can see how much you hate going into school and how much it affects you and how you feel. I imagine going into school where you get bullied every day is really upsetting and it might take a lot of effort just to make yourself go in. I want you to know that bullying is wrong. Everyone has the right to go to school and learn without being bullied. You say school know and mum does too, but they don’t do anything. I imagine that must be really difficult to deal with, knowing you have been brave enough to tell someone what is going on, and yet they have done nothing about it.
It is important that you know that every school has a duty to protect their students from bullying. They should have an anti-bullying policy to help them decide the best way to help students who are being bullied. I wonder if you could try talking to a teacher again, perhaps there is one you feel most comfortable with, and you could explain to them how this is affecting you, like you have in your letter to me. Some people find keeping a diary of what happens can be a useful thing to have to show to teachers about what is happening and how often. Maybe writing a letter to your teacher will help you get across what you want to say about how horrible the bullying is making you feel.
I can see how much you want things to be how they were before, and how you miss your friends and feel you are losing more of them to the bullies. As you have probably found, trying to stop bullying can be difficult, and takes a lot of courage. You have already been so brave in telling your mum and the school. And now again, you have done so well in telling me about being bullied and I hope we can help you to get the bullying to stop. You don’t have to do this alone.
Maybe it might help to see how others feel about, and cope with being bullied. I wonder if you have ever had a look at the ChildLine bullying message board to see what other young people have written about being bullied. There is also another website which might be useful to take a look at, it is called Bully Busters, they have a free helpline 0800 169 6928 and website.
You say you don’t know who to talk to anymore, and I hope you can think about talking to someone at ChildLine to see how we can help you more. Being bullied can make you feel very alone, so it can be important to have other people around to support you. I hope you know you can always talk to a counsellor at ChildLine either on a 1-2-1 online chat or on free phone 0800 1111. They can listen to how you are feeling, and talk through what you want to happen and your options. Sometimes being able to share what is happening can help the way we are feeling, and help us work out what we want to do.
Take care,
Sam