Hello
Thank you for writing in to me and sharing a bit about what is happening for you at the moment, you have been really brave to talk about what is going on. What this girl is doing is wrong - no one has the right to bully you and it sounds like it could be quite scary for you. You deserve all the support you would like and it is important that you know what is going on is not your fault.
You do not have to put up with what is happening and I can hear that she makes you feel uncomfortable, scared and annoyed. One of the best options to take if you are being bullied is to talk to someone you can trust like a family member, friend or someone at school about what is happening. Talking to someone about what is going on can be a good form of support, hopefully making you feel like you are not dealing with this by yourself and it can be a great way of sharing and expressing your feelings. If you try to fight back it can make the situation worse or you could get yourself into trouble.
Each school has an anti-bullying policy and it might be helpful to ask a teacher about what your schools policy is. There are steps put in place that are to be followed if bullying is reported. Your school has a duty of care for you and if you felt you were able to tell someone about what is going on then they have to try to get it to stop. If talking face to face seems difficult you could make some notes to remind yourself of what you would like to say or you could write it in a letter.
It can help to write a bullying journal, so every time the girl bullies you inside or outside of school, you could write about what has happened and how it has made you feel. This is a good way of being able to express yourself and also you could use it as evidence when speaking to someone about what has happened.
You mentioned that this girl lives in the same close as you and waits by the main door to bang it in your face, maybe you could think about ways of trying to stay safe and avoid her. For example could you ring someone you live with so they can meet you down stairs by the door, or arrange to walk home with a friend?
Bullying can have a big impact on the way it makes someone feel and often the bully does not realise the impact it does have. You mentioned that you are feeling very annoyed, finding ways to express how you are feeling can be very helpful, for example writing, painting, listening to music or doing something you enjoy.
It sounds like you are dealing with a lot at the moment and it might be helpful to contact ChildLine to speak to a counsellor more about what is going on for you and talking about ways to stay safe and end the bullying. ChildLine has a free phone number on 0800 1111 which you could call and it will not appear on the phone bill, there is also a 1-2-1 chat service which is a bit like MSN Messenger where you would be able to chat with a counsellor. You could also look at the ChildLine message boards where other young people who are going through similar situations to you are able to support one and other.
Another good website that you may find helpful is called Bully Busters, they offer online and phone support to tackle bullying: The helpline is 0800 169 6928. Well done for writing to me and remember that there is always support for you whenever you would like to talk.
Take care,
Sam