Hi Anonymous,
You have said you are a normal kid at school and overall it sounds like you are happy with school. You have said that you have lots of friends and a few very close ones and you get decent grades. That is great to hear.
It sounds like you feel that this boy at school is spoiling things for you at the moment, you have said he is making your life a misery and I can see that you have some really strong feelings of anger towards him right now. It is important that you know that no one has the right to make fun of some one else, to try to turn their friends against them or to bully them. You say he is known as the 'joker' but that is not an excuse.
You have said you have a bad temper but you can control it and that you really want to hurt him but you wouldn’t stoop so low. It sounds like you are really making the effort to behave in the right way and I think you should be proud of yourself for this. I get the impression that it might be hard for you to cope with your feelings sometimes and I am wondering how you are doing this? You have said that you laugh things off in front of everyone. I get the impression this is hurting you a lot at the moment - it is OK to be upset sometimes.
If ever you feel like you want someone to talk to, for support, to get stuff off your chest or go through your options with you, ChildLine is here. You are more than welcome to contact ChildLine any time to speak to a counsellor, either by phone on 0800 1111 or using the 1-2-1 online chat.
You mentioned that this boy bullied a girl, he was given detention when she told her teachers, but he carried on. I can hear that at the moment you are reluctant to tell the teachers yourself, but bullying is wrong and your school have a responsibility to deal with bullying. All schools have to have an anti-bullying policy. This is a set of rules which explains what the school can do to stop bullying. You have the right to ask to see this to find out more about what can be done to help you. Sometimes teachers think that the bullying has been sorted out and don’t realise that it is carrying on, so you might have to tell them more than once. Some people find it useful to keep a diary of what is happing as evidence.
Perhaps you could ask a teacher (privately if you like) if it is possible to have an assembly or class about bullying, what the school can do to help and a discussion about what everyone might be able to do if they thought bullying was happening. It might help to raise people’s awareness. This is just a suggestion. Perhaps you could get in touch with a ChildLine counsellor to talk more about it.
You might find it helpful to have a look at the Bullying message board where other young people share their experiences and advice.
Take care,
Sam