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Having a boyfriend or girlfriend for the first time is really exciting, but it can be scary too. It's normal to have worries about it and what will happen in the future. Taking a chance is part of life and it's also part of relationships, but it's important to stay safe and happy.

Love heartWhat kinds of things do people worry about in relationships?

When you start going out with someone, even if you started out as friends, there are lots of new things to learn about the other person.

This can be worrying and you might feel a bit odd or have emotions that you haven't had before.

Things you might worry about:

  • Does he/she really like me?
  • Will the relationship last?
  • Will he/she be faithful to me?
  • Should we have sex?
  • Is this relationship right for me?

 

I am worried about my relationship

It's natural to worry about some or all of the above things. If you are really worried about your relationship you could talk to your boyfriend or girlfriend about how you feel.

If you feel like you can't talk to them, you can chat with us about any problems you might have. Call ChildLine free on 0800 1111 or chat to us online in confidence

If you ever feel scared, frightened or humiliated by your boyfriend or girlfriend, this could be relationship abuse. Nobody should make you feel like this. Get help with relationship abuse

  • Should I have sex with my boyfriend/girlfriend?

    Having sex is a big decision and there are lots of things to think about if you are considering doing it. You can read more about sex on our explore page. You can also speak to other young people on the sex and sexual health message board.

  • I’m being pressured into having sex, what should I do?

    Having sex is a big decision. If you don’t feel comfortable or ready to have sex with someone, then you shouldn’t feel like you have to do it. Your boyfriend or girlfriend should care about you enough not to pressure you or make you do something you’re not happy about. Remember that the age of consent in the UK is 16 years old.

    There can be a lot of pressure from other people to have sex and it might seem like everyone else is doing it or talking about it. This shouldn’t be the reason that you start having sex – you should do it because you want to and you are over 16 years old. If you need to talk about sex, you can talk to ChildLine any time.

  • How do I break up with someone?

    It's never easy breaking up with someone but there are ways to make it easier. If you are unhappy about something in your relationship, or don't feel the same way about your boyfriend or girlfriend any more, then you might want to end the relationship. Think about how you would feel if it was the other way round and try and make it as painless as possible.

    - Try and tell your boyfriend/girlfriend face to face in a place that is private and quiet, or at least not full of people you both know.
    - Don't break up with them by text, email or letter as this will be really hurtful.
    - Tell your boyfriend/girlfriend why you want to end the relationship.
    - If you don't want to be friends, don't promise that you will be as it will hurt them more if you lie.

  • My girlfriend/boyfriend has ended the relationship, what do I do?

    Splitting up with someone is never easy - especially if it wasn't your decision. It can be really upsetting if you are the one who has been broken up with and it takes time to get over it.

    It can be helpful to talk about how you feel to a friend or even a parent. If you feel that you can't talk to anyone, you can contact a ChildLine counsellor free on 0800 1111 to chat about how you feel. You can also visit the relationships message board and get help and support from other young people who might be in the same situation as you.

  • Can I speak to ChildLine confidentially about sex and relationships?

    Yes. You can speak to a ChildLine counsellor about anything that is on your mind and we will not tell anyone else about what you've said. 
    Find out more about ChildLine's confidentiality promise

Other sites that can help

Free & confidential information for under 25s
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This is ABUSE website

Call ChildLine

You can call ChildLine at any time on 0800 1111 to speak to a counsellor. Calls are free and confidential.

Call ChildLine

Relationships message board

Speak to other young people about relationships and any worries you might have on the ChildLine message boards.

Visit the message board

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