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Peer pressure

Peer pressure is feeling like you have to do something just because all your friends are doing it.

Mashed

Mashed

Short clip about peer pressure from friends to drink alcohol and the outcome of that.

Transcript

Yeah, it was a Friday night. I was just heading over to my boyfriend's. I was sitting at the bus stop, bored out of my nut. I was just about to text him when my mate Lisa turns up with Amy.

Jo! (Jo) And they tell me they're going to get mashed at this party, as if they weren't already. And it was weird. One minute I was bored out my head, waiting for a bus, and the next minute...I'm having this top laugh.

Hello, girlies! (Jo) So these two boys pull up,  proper weirdos. I didn't know them, but Amy knew them a bit... I think. Amy told them about the party and said she wanted to score.

So they were like, "Yeah, we've got some. Jump in." And Lisa was like, "Are you coming?" And I was like, "No, it's all right."And Lisa was like really rubbing it in, saying I'm really boring. (Lisa) Get in the car.

(Jo) So we're getting pretty mashed, having a top laugh. No! Turn round, turn round, turn round! And Lisa's like, "Who's got the sweeties? Who's got the sweeties?" Tom's got the sweets! Ah! (whooping) (Jo) Everybody wanted to get mashed.

So I was like, "No." Only 'cause my boyfriend said mixing booze and pills was dodgy. Doesn't wanna mix her drinks and drugs. Mix the drinks. (Jo) And Lisa was like, "You've got to have one, got to have one."And then everyone else got involved. Jo! Jo! Take a pill! Jo! Jo! Take a pill! Jo! Jo! Take a pill! Take a pill! Just leave it. Whoo!

(Tom) Chill out. Leave her alone. (Jo) Tom realised and he stuck up for me, saying, "If she doesn't want to take them, then that's fine." I'm not gonna force her in any way. (Jo) "Just take a drink." So he passed me the bottle of vodka.

Party! Whoo! (Tom) One, two, one, two! (laughter and whooping) (abrupt silence) (Jo) And the next thing I know, everything was really quiet in the back.

(driver) Is she wanting it? (Tom) She's no choice about it. (Tom) You wanna give me a kiss? Give me a kiss. Just a wee kiss. Just there. Huh? (Jo)

I started to worry, so I shouted, "Look, stop the car." "I'm gonna be sick."

This one's still living. And he was like shouting at me really aggressively, "You'd better not be sick in my car."But I knew I had to get out of there. (he yells)

Get her out, quick. (Jo) Jay and Tom were standing arguing, saying, "Get her back in the car. Get her back in the car." (Jay)

She spewed in the motor. (Jo) Luckily, I looked up. I saw a few figures. Keep your voice down. There's people coming. (Jay) I don't care. (Tom) Where are you going? Jay!

The police says it was that date rape drug. Lisa didn't know, obviously. She thought they were spiking my drink with something else. She said she did it because she wanted me to have a laugh, just didn't want me to end up boring and all that.

 
 
 
 
 

Peer pressureWhat is peer pressure?
Peer pressure is feeling like you have to do something just because all your friends are doing it. There's a lot of pressure to fit in, wear the same clothes as everyone else and do what they're doing. Peer pressure is not always doing what your friends at school do, it might also be wanting to copy what other kids your age do.

 

 

 




Will I be left out if I don't do what everyone else is doing?
Not necessarily. People should like you for who you are and respect your decisions. If they won't be friends with you because you don't want to join in, then they are not true friends.

It might seem like everyone else is doing things that you are not, but sometimes that's not the case. Some people like to talk about things that they get up to, like smoking or drinking, but they might be saying that to look cool.

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  • How does peer pressure affect me?

    If you are doing things because your mates are, or changing what you normally do to fit in, then you are being affected by peer pressure. Some of things you might feel pressure to do are:

    - Wear the same clothes as your mates
    - Drink alcohol, smoke or take drugs
    - Change your friends because your other mates don't like them
    - Bunk off school
    - Have a boyfriend or girlfriend
    - Start having sex.

  • What can I do about peer pressure?

    If you don't want to do something that your mates want you to do, it can be hard to stand up to them. You shouldn't have to do anything that you don't want to do. If your mates are really your friends they should respect you and not make you do things that make you uncomfortable.

    If you feel that you are being forced to do things that you don't want to, or are worried about not fitting in, you can talk to us and we can help you

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